How to Have a Healthy Ego
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When we say someone has a big ego, we often mean they are full of pride or self-importance. It’s true that an unhealthy ego turns us into our own worst enemy, undermines our good efforts and damages our relationships. But having a healthy ego is actually a positive thing. Here’s how you can cultivate a healthy ego so you can stop self-sabotaging, become your own best friend and most valuable asset and be all that you can be.
A loving sense of self
Are you constantly telling yourself that you’re not good enough? Instead of being so self-critical, identify where you excel and what you can really count on yourself for. Also, ask others where you are consistent and dependable for them. This is a great way to get valuable insight into your strengths and build on the positivity you feel for yourself. As Mr. Rogers once said, “You can’t really love someone else unless you love yourself first.” If you want to pour yourself out for other people, you must first fill up your own water bottle!
Rock solid resiliency
We all experience failure in life. It’s important to remember that it’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts. When it comes to bouncing back from failure, resilience is key. Being resilient allows us to recover quickly from difficulty and gives us the opportunity to learn, grow and succeed from our failures. As Dale Carnegie once said, “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.”
The ability to solve problems
When faced with difficulty, are you willing and able to think outside the box and look at something with a fresh perspective? The ability to solve problems is the cornerstone of a real estate professional’s job. This means that, when faced with a challenge, you must have a positive approach to thinking in a different way to find a solution. Of course, positive thinking alone won’t get you there – but it will help!
The capacity to develop relationships
C.S. Lewis once wrote, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” A healthy ego means wanting to connect and form strong relationships with other people. In business, this means having an others-first mentality. Focus on building and maintaining strong relationships in your business circles. Consistent efforts to exceed expectations and go above and beyond mean you will become a trusted adviser to your database and form the kinds of strong bonds that guarantee referrals.
A sense of meaning
All of us are searching for a sense of purpose in life. There are different seasons and stages in life which means that, over time, our ‘whys’ can change. However, a healthy ego ultimately means having a sense of meaning that will leave a legacy. In this age of distraction, make the time and space to reflect on your ‘why.’
Listen to the latest episode of It’s a Good Life to hear more about how to nurture a healthy ego.
